What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami, FL
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student/part-time sales
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
A Married Guy At The Gym
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s late 30s, blue eyes, short blonde hair, muscular, married with one kid and his wife is currently 4 months pregnant.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at the gym a year ago and he’s always been flirty with me. The first time we talked was when I had just finished yoga. He approached me and complimented my ‘colorful outfit’. I know I was blushing while his eyes were checking me out because I’m not used to getting attention from hot guys. We started texting so we’d plan to be at the gym at the same time. He’d send messages like, ‘I can’t wait to see your hot body today.’ On days when I swim, I used to wear a one piece but he kept saying I’d look ‘fine’ in a bikini so I started wearing a beach bikini. BTW: My BF/fiancé is average height, skinny, nerdy looking and never goes to the gym with me.
He’d already told me his wife was pregnant. On this day, he told me she was away visiting her sister for a few days and he was home alone. I told him my bf was away on a mission trip. The flirting got heated. He confessed how long it’d been since he’d had sex because his wife was pregnant and refuses to give him blow-jobs. I told him it’d been a while for me too. He made the comment that maybe we should help each other out. As we were leaving, he walked me to my car and gave me a kiss. I was a little shocked but the feeling was mostly excitement. I was so horny but I was trying to remain calm. However, my face was on fire from blushing as he tried to apologize for being forward. I told him I was flattered and that he was a good kisser. He asked if I’d like to come to his place and have sex. I agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He lived close and I followed him. We got inside and removed our clothes. His muscular body was making me want to jump him. We kissed, he squeezed my tits and started sucking them. His penis was thick and above average. I held it in my hands while we kissed. Then I started sucking him. He said he was close so I got on the bed and he started on top. His dick felt really good entering me. His rhythm was slow at the start but I asked him to go harder. It didn’t take me long to have an orgasm. We switched and did doggy for a long time. I was on the edge of a second orgasm then he got off.
I got dressed and we agreed to hook-up again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? That evening we were texting each other and I agreed to go back to his place for sex again. We began with regular sex but then I asked him for anal. He lasted a long time. I had an orgasm and he finished inside me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms for vaginal sex and nothing when we did anal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BFF Katie. She loved the story and the details. She’s cool and has always encouraged me to experience sex with other people.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My partner is hot and made me feel like I was attractive. I liked his bold approach. My decision to have sex with him was easy.
He was willing to do anal with me. BTW: He was amazing!
Everything about this experience was good.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m currently engaged but since I started having casual sex, I’ve become more open to enjoying other people. I don’t want to end my relationship but I do enjoy having non-commitment sex. It felt good to have a guy approach me.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m glad I had this experience.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people should be open to giving casual sex a try before they judge others that are doing it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea. I love reading the stories.
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