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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, Oregon
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Architectural Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15-20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Delicious Afternoon!

How long ago did this hookup happen?  3 days ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a 6’2” white male. We met online via Adult Friend Finder. We texted and exchanged pictures for about 1 week. I was excited to meet him; we had connected over our messaging on kik, by telephone, and through our increasingly suggestive IMing. We definitely hit it off. I thought he seemed very sexy and attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We made plans to meet for dinner. Throughout the days leading up to that, however, we decided to forgo dinner and just meet at my house and go straight to sex! He came to my house, walked into my living room, hugged me, and then started kissing me. Immediately, he lifted my dress and began fingering me. I felt his hard cock and undid his pants. We decided then to go upstairs to my bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to my bedroom, and I removed his clothes and started by giving him oral sex. He then had me lay on my bed, where he spread my legs and gave me oral sex and fingered me. We had vaginal sex in multiple positions, oral sex for us both in multiple positions, anal play, kissing, role play, and very dirty talking to each other. He was an amazing lover! Honestly, he was the best sex I’ve ever had! He stayed hard, listened to me, gave me direction when I asked him, and was responsive to my needs, interests, and fantasy roles I introduced while playing, kinky! We had sex for about 2 hours both coming multiple times in multiple positions!!

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went to my living room and talked for another couple of hours. We then hugged and talked that night and the next day. We agreed to see each other again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend. Happy for me but concerned.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The stamina and length of its passion & intensity!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He has a primary partner at home who doesn’t know. This leaves me with mixed feelings.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes…how I see and feel about myself. It was a very positive experience. The last relationship I was in the man was a very poor lover. This was everything I knew and hoped sex could be!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has been a deeply growing and positive experience for me to have casual sexual hookups since leaving my long term, basically asexual, relationship 6 years ago.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!