What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Wisconsin, USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Long Lost Fun
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? T was about 5’6″ with brown hair and blue eyes. I had known her since the 90s and we had dated in the past. The relationship was pretty decent but the sex was by far the best experience I ever have had with a partner. Even after we broke up I always had a thing for her and was hoping that someday I would run into her again and maybe get another chance to date her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day in September I was at work passing through the hall and all of a sudden I saw T standing in a small group of people. I asked what she was doing there, and she had told she was going to begin working there and that she was going to be working the second shift. I had been working first. I got very excited about this because where I work, there is always an opportunity for overtime. I had been through a recent divorce and had begun to stay late a couple of nights a week. I always had her smiling, and she was loving the flirting going on between us. She was married, but she told me that she and her husband hadn’t had much of a connection for quite some time. I had told her about my divorce and one day she jokingly said how she loved our sexual chemistry and that maybe we could have a little fun sometime. She started to wear tighter jeans, and low cut tops if I was going to stay. It’s sometimes cold in the plant so she would usually cover up after I left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There were many hookups between us over the next two years. We texted each other all the time and were always super excited when we were able to get together. We had sex everywhere, in my truck, her house, my place, wherever we could. She would ask me to take a vacation day every month. Her husband would leave for work, her daughter would be off to school, and she would come over to my place. She kept shower stuff at my place and some lingerie. She would come out to the living room, and we would start making out and my hands would be all over every part of her body. After this, I would pick her up and take her to the bedroom where I would go face first between the best set of legs I ever saw. I would lick and suck her and make her orgasm every time we hooked up. There were also times she got out early and had asked me to meet her someplace or come by and sneak into my room and have a couple of hours of sexual play.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After this all happened I was hoping that we could be a couple again. She is very sexual but it takes the right person to bring it out of her. I believe I was that person. She eventually broke ties with me and I have tried to connect again but haven’t had any luck. I still really do love her and miss everything about her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A friend from work. Told him everything and think he really enjoyed hearing about the secret hookups.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting a chance to see T again and feeling like it had picked up right where it had ended when we split over 20 years ago.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That she had stopped everything with me because she knew she would get the urge to sleep with me again. She wanted to try and work out things with her hubby.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Makes me think that someone out there might think I am enough for them to hold on to.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If you ever get a chance to have great sex with an ex I say go for it because experiences don’t come along like that very often.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting site. Love reading all the stories.
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